Who’s Your Boss?

Last week I slept at one of my “friend’s” apartment. I have played with him in a band for some time, and we actually hadn’t talked in a long time. He had been busy with photographing, his ex-girlfriend and travelling, and I had just been busy with school. I was a bit surprised when he suddenly wrote me this summer. We were both at the same festival (Roskilde Festival), and he asked if I wanted to meet with him. I think I’ve always found him charming and attractive, so I gave it a go. Unfortunately I was really, really, really drunk most of the time at the festival, and that exact night was no exception. Of course we ended up kissing and then we went back to his tent. And yes, we did do it – but I really don’t think it was any good. At least I can’t remember it – and that’s never a good thing, right?

However, we didn’t talk any more for the rest of the summer. But we met randomly at some party afterwards and we tried to reach each other on the cell phone for the next few weeks, but always without luck. After another failed text with “you wanna meet tonight? (; “ (from me of course...) he wrote me, if I wanted to see him, when we were both sober (oh yes, that will need to be in italics!).
Now, I have always thought a lot about what men vs. women were turned on by. I am of the belief that every boy is more or less into either being dominated or being dominating. I really have a strong feeling about what the man/boy wants and I have never been wrong about it (at least not yet!).  I don’t know where this feeling comes from, but somehow I just always know what to do and what turns the boy on (or at least I think so... Well... No one has complained – so that’s a confirmation in my theory... right?).
So; I had this idea that this boy might have a little thing for being dominated – well, just a bit!! So after we had done it (twice...) I asked him: “what turns you on? Anything I can do (implicit next time)?” And to that he answered: “Well... I like the most, when girls are on the top, you know, like, taking the lead”. Cachiiing! I was right. (Okay, admitted! I couldn’t hold back a little triumphing smile!)

I talked about the “who should dominate in bed?” conflict with Alma and Francisca. Francisca doesn’t believe in my theory about every boy leaning a bit for either being dominated or to dominate, she believes that it depends on your partners’ mood, sex-desire, and that it shifts during the whole act. And of course I agree with her! I do believe that shifting positions in the sexual act is very important, but it doesn’t exclude the (from my point of view) fact that every boy (and also girl!) are turned more on by either being dominated or dominate themselves. Alma agreed with me. But when they asked me what I would prefer in bed, I actually became doubtful. I have never been asked that question before. Francisca said immediately: “I would definitely prefer a big, strong man to push me down and do me”. Alma couldn’t fully agree with that. She wasn’t sure what she liked the best, because to be honest; she really liked to be the one in charge as well! I must admit; after I have tried a few different situations I would anytime prefer to be dominated. I may be traditional, but it turns me much more on to be laid by a “big, strong man”.

I have only tried that once – unfortunately – but that was one hell of a turn on! What makes you turned on? To be dominated or to dominate?

xoxo Lucy