Who’s Your Boss?

Last week I slept at one of my “friend’s” apartment. I have played with him in a band for some time, and we actually hadn’t talked in a long time. He had been busy with photographing, his ex-girlfriend and travelling, and I had just been busy with school. I was a bit surprised when he suddenly wrote me this summer. We were both at the same festival (Roskilde Festival), and he asked if I wanted to meet with him. I think I’ve always found him charming and attractive, so I gave it a go. Unfortunately I was really, really, really drunk most of the time at the festival, and that exact night was no exception. Of course we ended up kissing and then we went back to his tent. And yes, we did do it – but I really don’t think it was any good. At least I can’t remember it – and that’s never a good thing, right?

However, we didn’t talk any more for the rest of the summer. But we met randomly at some party afterwards and we tried to reach each other on the cell phone for the next few weeks, but always without luck. After another failed text with “you wanna meet tonight? (; “ (from me of course...) he wrote me, if I wanted to see him, when we were both sober (oh yes, that will need to be in italics!).
Now, I have always thought a lot about what men vs. women were turned on by. I am of the belief that every boy is more or less into either being dominated or being dominating. I really have a strong feeling about what the man/boy wants and I have never been wrong about it (at least not yet!).  I don’t know where this feeling comes from, but somehow I just always know what to do and what turns the boy on (or at least I think so... Well... No one has complained – so that’s a confirmation in my theory... right?).
So; I had this idea that this boy might have a little thing for being dominated – well, just a bit!! So after we had done it (twice...) I asked him: “what turns you on? Anything I can do (implicit next time)?” And to that he answered: “Well... I like the most, when girls are on the top, you know, like, taking the lead”. Cachiiing! I was right. (Okay, admitted! I couldn’t hold back a little triumphing smile!)

I talked about the “who should dominate in bed?” conflict with Alma and Francisca. Francisca doesn’t believe in my theory about every boy leaning a bit for either being dominated or to dominate, she believes that it depends on your partners’ mood, sex-desire, and that it shifts during the whole act. And of course I agree with her! I do believe that shifting positions in the sexual act is very important, but it doesn’t exclude the (from my point of view) fact that every boy (and also girl!) are turned more on by either being dominated or dominate themselves. Alma agreed with me. But when they asked me what I would prefer in bed, I actually became doubtful. I have never been asked that question before. Francisca said immediately: “I would definitely prefer a big, strong man to push me down and do me”. Alma couldn’t fully agree with that. She wasn’t sure what she liked the best, because to be honest; she really liked to be the one in charge as well! I must admit; after I have tried a few different situations I would anytime prefer to be dominated. I may be traditional, but it turns me much more on to be laid by a “big, strong man”.

I have only tried that once – unfortunately – but that was one hell of a turn on! What makes you turned on? To be dominated or to dominate?

xoxo Lucy

Should We Cross The Line With A 69?

The other day I went to my musician’s hall of residence. We had been fighting a bit the day before, and the atmosphere between us was a bit tense. We were both drunk and it was five in the morning. Pretty soon we were both naked and the foreplay was going well. Suddenly he pulls me up upon him, and before I knew where I was, we were doing a 69. Yeah, you heard it.

I believe most of the girls have tried it. Well, at least I have tried it once before (even though I couldn’t carry through it of just laughter… I mean, it was like I was lying the wrong way!). I don’t hate this sex position – I just don’t know how to enjoy it right! In my opinion it is actually a very difficult position. The idea of both to give and enjoy at the same time can be a tough wall to break. It is rare these days that I pass by a 69 but nevertheless I believe that the 69 is only enjoyed by the males. It is difficult to do a well blowjob, when you’re using all your energy on trying to pant, groan, enjoy it, stay up and do a nice job when you have a penis in your mouth at the same time. Jesus!! On the other hand I think it is a pretty easy job for the guys: they only have to lie down and move their tongue.

This must be the boys’ idea of how it feels to be a girl, for just some minutes. However, for us girls it is actually just something to get over with. It is really a question of you having the time for a 69, or should you just need to go straight to the (actual) fun part? Boys probably see the 69 as a very overrated position. For some time ago it was very crazy thing to do the 69. Something they could boast about to their friends. And now? Apparently something they still like to do. But to be truly honest – it’s not my thing. At. All. And I wonder how many girls who actually like it? I would personally at anytime prefer to give a blowjob or to be going down on. Call me traditional, but I like it to do it the right way. And turning your face the wrong way in relation to each other in a bed just appears very awkward! Or maybe it’s just across my border (I would never imagine I should say that word about any sex position! But then again... It is a 69!).

Alma, Carla, Francisca (another girl from my class) and I talked about the 69 and played with the rhymes that go to 69. The best example came from Alma. Maybe that is the way to suggest your boy/girlfriend a 69 (though it will be very understandable if they turn you down!). It goes like this:

“You show me yours, I’ll show you mine, together we’ll make a 69!” – good, isn’t it?

Anyway, this wasn’t meant to be a rhyme; I just want to complain about 69!

xoxo Lucy.