Button Your Lip

The other day I talked to one of my friends – Carla – who had been on holiday with her friend. Of course the trip had been loaded with hot guys, even though Carla’s friend already has a boyfriend.  It turned out as we talked along, that her friend was extremely selfish. Trough the whole trip she had been trying to make a move with every single man Carla showed interest in. The more Carla told me about her friend, the more I disliked her. They had been ‘best’ friends a couple of years ago. Carla’s friend had been a bitch – frankly.  She was that kind of girl, who is almost a bit ‘too ready for sex’ in the age of just fourteen. Now, I may sound as the pious kind of girl, but let me assure you, that I’m not. Not at all. I love sex, and I believe everyone should have the chance to try it – sooner or later.  But fourteen? 

Nevertheless, Carla’s friend was also the first of the two to kiss a boy for real. Whenever they were discussing the subject, and Carla was trying to comment on what a good kiss would be like, she got the answer “you cannot tell, because well... you obviously haven’t tried it yet.”
Maybe I should mention that the exact same night, Carla kissed two boys. I could only shake my head and sigh of the story. Carla’s friend sounded like an intolerable person!

However, it made me think a lot about girls’ expectations and experiences about sex. Through our whole life, the sentence – “do not have sex, before you’re mentally and physically ready!” – has been our mantra since we were children; and for boys? “Fuck whatever you can, as soon as you can.”
Okay, I am aware that this of course is not the whole truth. I guess many boys in fact don’t get any information about sex, love and how to treat a girl. But us girls always end up placing this label on the lads. Well, it’s a mark that some girls, who have had their hearts broken use to push boys away from themselves. It can be discussed whether it’s ridiculous or if the girls are just being careful.    

Girls have a tendency (myself included) to put another label on boys: ‘sex is the only thing on their minds’. Most of you girls will probably nod and agree to this statement – and perhaps some boys will agree as well. I don’t doubt that rumour; but as my biology teacher said: “Mother Nature made men very primitive” (meaning that the only thing they ever think of is sex. He claimed that they actually think about it every 10^th minute. Shit). In the meantime every single of the seven boys in my class were looking out of the window or at their computer screens without paying attention to the discussion. No doubt.
Nevertheless, it made me wonder: are girls really that pious compared to boys?
Really, girls. Let’s be honest. We think about sex many times a day as well! And the best part: we do not just think about it. We talk about it. We talk a lot. All the time. Because sex is an interesting subject! I spend many hours on dirty, but informative sex talk with my best homies. It’s a fantastic relief to discuss, inform and learn about sex that way. Your friends are the best ones to give feedback, to teach you about sex in general and to guide you to heaven. Unfortunately, boys don’t do so, but they should! If so, us girls wouldn’t have to teach you it all; you would have some kind of basis knowledge.

So what I’m really saying: we cannot avoid it. Girls. Love. Sex. That’s just the way it is! But how we search for it, practise it, like it, hunt it and love it is very different from girl to girl. This is what my blog will be about: how do we find love? What’s really the difference between boys and girls? And will we girls ever understand you boys and the other way around?
I’ll do my best to research these subjects, and then it’s up to you to make a statement.

Enjoy and remember to button your lip!

xoxo Lucy.